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Jumped ship and landed in….Tulsa!

My father has been to 55 countries; partly due to his time in the Merchant Marines and partly due to being an American Airlines employee. Recently, I recorded a list of the countries he’s been to but I never knew specific details about his job duties until I interviewed him.  Wisdom and resilience are two nouns that come to mind when people think of him. He has zillions of proverbs and inspirational quotes. He defines swagger and his story is as humorous as he is. 25163_380222802598_763282598_3822139_5075085_n

Why did you join the Merchant Marines?

I was 19 years old and it was a good opportunity. I had to help support my family back home in Greece because my father died at 60 years old.

Did you have to take a test? Were there any requirements?

I needed a Seaman’s Passport or Seaman’s papers. I saw a job in the newspaper in the village square….an ad asking for people to work on ships. I worked in the Navy as an employee on the Hephaestus ship. That ship had 200-300 employees and we serviced other ships; their motors, pumps, pipes,….I spent three years like that. We picked up old WWII airplanes that had sunk in the ocean.

I departed from Piraeus to go to Alexandria, Egypt then onto France because we were on a French ship. My duties were as an assistant electrician on the ship Meditteranea where I learned the skills on the job. On one ship we went to Istanbul, Israel, Lebanon, Turkey and Tunis which is next to Libya. We took an airplane from Athens to Cairo and Suez, Egypt and from there took a ship to England transporting the oil. Then onto Venezuela and Argentina and  back and forth to Venezuela before going onto San Francisco.CCE00002-4_2

I was on the Meditteranae for 6 months, then went to Egypt by airplane. I worked for three years for the Royal Navy before this. After San Francisco, Curacao, New York and back and forth there, I went to Aruba, Cartagena, Columbia and loaded up to go to England. Back and forth. Then, onto Morocco. We spent a few days there and went onto Jamaica and Baton Rouge. Back and forth.25163_380222822598_763282598_3822142_633432_n

There was something that happened that was very significant.  On a ship going to Jamaica, there was seaweed that made a big clump that floated close to the ship. If the ship got too close, the pump sucked it in and stopped up the pipes. Then we’d have no electricity and we’d be in emergency mode. We couldn’t start the engines with no electricity. Everyone was desperate and confused. I had a thought that if I unplugged the weeds from one pipe, then, the water would go the other direction where the pipe was clean. It could’ve flooded the ship.

When I cleaned that area, it was 140 degrees in the engine room and I was down there by myself. I started that generator back up and it fired the boilers and  started the pump from the bottom of the ship and pushed the water out. The lights and fan came on, the ship cooled down and started running again. When I looked up, everyone came down to the boiler room cheering for me! The cook, the captain, the whole crew was surprised to find me there. They thanked me and the cook brought me a case of sodas as a gift. We started the engines and went to Jamaica. It was a controversial situation. If I failed, I might have flooded the ship. I was 23 years old at the time. They were supposed to give me a medal by the company who owned the ship….a badge of honor because we almost lost the ship. The whole crew was responsible. I never received the medal because I didn’t stay on.25163_380222812598_763282598_3822140_5997199_n

I jumped ship in Baton Rouge and took a Greyhound Bus to Tulsa. I went there to visit relatives, met your mother and the rest was history. It was like I woke up and found myself with a baby and then two babies. (Another guy also jumped the ship and went to New York and found a job there.)IMG_7543

What happened leading up to this was that your mother’s cousin- in- law came to Tulsa (from Greece) . He was engaged to your mother’s cousin. Your mom introduced him to me. He  brought a bottle of wine for your mom from the doctor suitor who was intending to marry your mom.  The doctor suitor was still back in Greece. I drank his wine with your mom’s cousin in law. (He said this chuckling). So, he was never able to give her the bottle of wine from her suitor.IMG_7567

You drank his wine and you took his girl?!

Yes. And your mom’s cousin in law told her that I was the better deal and that she’d be better off with me. The doctor suitor back in Greece wanted a dowry anyway. Your grandpa was confused about all this. He wanted the other man to marry your mother.

Writer’s side note: (my dad and mom’s cousin in law became dear friends and relatives. Their fathers-in-law were business partners and brothers-in-law. Their children were not just cousins but best buddies and now their grandchildren are cousins and best buddies.615436_10151150662997599_689514847_o
After a short courtship, we married. She arranged for me to get a lawyer so that we could handle the situation of me jumping ship. We went to the police station and the lawyer told them that I was confused and was supposed to go to New York but ended up in Tulsa. They fingerprinted me and told me I had 20 days to leave the U.S. My father in law was exhausted from worry about all this. (I stayed in the U.S.) We considered going to Mexico if we needed to but a few months after all this, I went to Canada on a Greyhound Bus alone and entered the states legally in order to stay married. Back to the Merchant Marines job, did you encounter any other danger on your voyages ?

Yes, hurricanes! And icebergs.  We never knew they were coming because there was no communication. …only the wind.  There were icebergs in the North Atlantic but we never saw them in the nighttime. We just watched the temperature of the water and if it dropped fast, we stopped because it meant the iceberg was coming. We’d turn and go the other way. I was caught in many hurricanes. We went against the waves of the ship, otherwise the ship would tilt.

“If you manage to face the waves, you have a good chance to survive.” 25163_380222847598_763282598_3822147_1269230_n

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Hiking in Alberta- Lake Louise and Banff

I interviewed my friend about her mother-son hiking trip. This fit, athletic superwoman is passionate about traveling and being outdoors. Her background as a professional cyclist is fascinating, too! I am especially intrigued about her mother-son relationship and what a role that plays in her life and athletic life.10435414_843857815668472_1786296225720200107_n

What inspired you to travel to Lake Louise and Banff in Alberta, Canada?

The gorgeous scenery there and the hiking trails are the reason I chose this location. You can hike daily there for a month and not see the same trail. There are tea houses along the way.

Banf
Banff

Tea houses? How many do you encounter?

They are refreshments and welcome centers. You can get sandwiches there. There are several tea houses along the way.

Tea House in Banf
Tea House in Banff

What did your trip itinerary involve?

We hiked 6-12 miles per day for 6 days. It was exhausting.266554_185455884842005_5254718_o

Exhausting for you? With all of your training?

Hiking is totally different than cycling.280200_186195181434742_7382430_o

Describe your workout regimen.

I cycle 1-5 hours a day. When I bike, it’s with a lot of intervals and I also lift weights 2-3 days week.

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Tell me about your cycling background. It’s so fascinating!

I was a professional cyclist sponsored by a team and companies. We cycled all over the world. Bike, shoe, helmet and clothing companies sponsored me. Oakley and Power Bar are two companies that sponsored me. This was 20 years ago. I was at the ’96 Olympic trials and I have won some national races. I raced in Europe where soccer and cycling are their main sports.10452946_658308634223392_4960235286686251685_o

Did you camp or stay in hotels? Did you fly there?

We stayed in nice resorts: Fairmont Lake Louise and Fairmont Banff which looks like a castle.  We flew into Calgary and then drove 1.5 hours to get there.

How would you describe the camping meals?

We’d have a big breakfast before hiking–protein bars and our camel pack. We’d eat sandwiches at the Tea House.

What was the terrain and weather like?

The trails go through glaciers. It was cold in the mornings but it warmed up during the day so I wore layers.271202_186195758101351_2769977_o

Describe the vibe of the area.

It was totally “granola”, earthy, laid back. Everyone was happy to be outdoors—very earth-loving people.

Describe a custom that you observed there. 

July 1st is their independence day celebrations. There were celebrations going on.

Were there any challenges in your trip?

Some trails were so steep, we had to use our hands and feet to get up. It’s a term called “scrambling.” It lasted for 15 minutes or so.

scrambling
scrambling

What did you learn about yourself from this trip?

I learned how much my son and I have in common. We both love adventure and the outdoors and we are both obsessed with sports and outdoors. Another time, my son and I wanted to do the Mont Blanc hiking trip but ended up doing a biking trip in Northern Italy.

Italy
Italy

We also want to do snow skiing in Chile someday. My husband and younger son are more alike and both like hunting.

mother and son hiking in Lake Louise and Banf
mother and son hiking in Lake Louise and Banf

My friends did the Mont Blanc hiking trip! You can read about it on the blog.

www.gypsyfamilytravel.com/hiking-mont-blanc-with-backwoods/

How did this trip enrich your life? Describe any experiences that made you grow spiritually?

Being in the outdoors, you have a lot of time to reflect and appreciate how blessed you are…..to be able to go on hikes and to be blessed with athletic ability.

 Click on link to see Tea Houses.

www.banfflakelouise.com/Things-To-Do/Summer-Adventures/Hiking-in-Banff-and-Lake-Louise/Unique-Experiences/Tea-Houses

The Heart Wants What it Wants

I met a pretty, bright and charming lady years ago when we volunteered together for the Greek Festival. She had just moved to town. By the time we finished making a pan of baklava together, we became instant friends! Before we knew it, we became co-teachers of a small but sweet Greek School class at our church. I was impressed with her spiritedness,  friendliness and instant involvement in our parish. I found her background interesting because she was born in Greece but moved to Germany. It was there in Germany that she met a U.S. soldier and fell in love!

Fasching Carnival
Fasching Carnival
German Faschings umzug Carnival
German Faschings umzug Carnival

What inspired you to travel to America and Germany?

I was born in Xirolimni, Kozani, Greece and lived there until I was 12 years old. When I was twelve I moved to Stuttgart, German with my family.

Stuttgart
Stuttgart

I lived in Welzheim (a small town outside of Stuttgart) with my parents, brother, and sister until I was twenty-one and met Roy.20151202_123306

What did your trip itinerary involve?

Roy was a U.S. Soldier who was stationed in Germany. We dated for a short three months before we got engaged. Love at first sight you could say. After we were married, the Army moved us over 28 times until Roy finally retired in 1997.

“Love at first sight”–can you elaborate on this? 🙂

We met in Schwabisch Gmund. He was stationed there and I lived 20 kilometers away in Welzheim. I had a group of friends, some Greek, some German and Italian, and also my brother (the chaperone). We loved American movies and would go out to discos on the weekend to practice our dance moves. The night I met him,  we were all going out to a disco for a friend’s birthday party. When I got to the disco, my friends and I got a table, ordered drinks, and started dancing. A little later in the evening I spotted a handsome American guy walking in. I hadn’t seen him before so he caught my eye. I told my friends that I thought he was so handsome.

One of my friends was dating an American guy and told him to go talk to the handsome American. So my friend’s boyfriend walked over to him and told him “hey man, that girl over there in the purple dress likes you.” So then, he walked over and sat down with me and my friends. Yet,  we were unable to talk because, at the time, he spoke only English and I knew none! My friend became our translator and helped us communicate. At the end of the night the handsome American soldier asked me if I would walk him back to the barracks. I said no, to play hard to get. After that night, my friend  set us up our first date. Most of our dates were just hanging out with friends. All odds were against us with the language barrier and also my parents did not want me to date or marry an American. Yet, somehow, someway the heart wants what it wants. He was my Tarzan and I was his Jane.

We dated for three months before we got engaged. He proposed to me on a cold December morning. He had just gotten off of all night duty and I came to pick him up. On December 31st, we had our official engagement party with all of my family and some of his friends. We got married May 22, 1980 in a civil wedding. On June 14, 1980, we had a small Orthodox wedding. And that is where our story began. We eventually welcomed  two daughters.wedding day

What excursions or museums do you recommend?

For our honeymoon, Roy and I went to the Black Forest and so our adventure began.

Black Forest
Black Forest

While living in Germany, we visited castle ruins, went on volks marches, and attended many festivals. Our travels took us to Vienna, Austria (the home of Mozart), to Paris, France (the city of lovers), to Italy, and Barcelona, Spain. While in each of these amazing cities, we saw famous monuments, architecture, and museums.

Neuschwanstein Castle
Neuschwanstein Castle
Linderhof Castle
Linderhof Castle
Linderhof Castle
Linderhof Castle

The Eiffel Tower in Paris and the flamenco dancers of Barcelona still hold a special place in my heart. Being Greek, I have also traveled to various places in my own home country. I have been to the King Philip (father of Alexander the Great) Museum in Vergina, Greece. Unknown-1imagesI walked in the steps of the Apostle Paul in Veria, Greece…. to the busy streets of Athens. I relaxed on the beach of Aegina with my whole family and visited the Temple of Athena while there. (and many more places)images-2

What hotels and restaurants do you recommend?

In Greece, we usually never stayed in hotels because there was always family nearby. My favorite restaurants in Athens would be any of the restaurants in Plaka beneath the Acropolis. In Germany, I would recommend that any traveler attend a beer fest. You will find the best bratwurst and wienerschnitzle you’ve ever tasted.

How would you describe the perfect Greek meal?

The perfect meal is a Greek meal by the ocean. Most Greek restaurants have fresh fish caught that morning. You can’t beat that!images-4

Describe the vibe of the culture?

In Greece, the vibe of the culture is very laid back, enjoying life, and spending time with family. The theme “eat, drink, and be merry” comes to mind when I think of the Greek lifestyle. In Germany, the cultural vibe is more like the U.S.- very work oriented and structured.

How do you describe the terrain?

In Greece, the terrain is beautiful! You have mountains in Northern Greece and ocean surrounding the entire country. Within forty-five minutes to an hour you can be at the Ocean wherever you are in Greece. The sea is the most beautiful blue you will every lay your eyes on and the sunsets are breathtaking. images-3In Germany, the terrain is much wooded with lots of winding roads. There are many forests and mountains. The towns are small and quaint.

Zugspitze in Bavaria
Zugspitze in Bavaria
Zugsptize
Zugsptize

Describe a custom that you observed there. Did you incorporate any of their customs back home?

I am Greek so the customs of the culture are my own. As for Germany, I learned the language and speak it fluently. Roy also learned the language so from time to time we speak in German together. The one custom we brought back to the U.S. from Germany is Schnitzle.

schnitzel
schnitzel

Another custom we brought back from Germany is on December 6th ,– we put a boot outside our door for St. Nicholas to fill with chocolates and candy! (A German Tradition) On January 1st, there was a  Greek tradition that I brought back from Greece in which we always got chocolates on that day from Αγιο Βασιλης.(Saint Basil)

My family does that tradition, too! I taught my sons that song and poem about Agios Vasilis and my sister makes sure they continue to get chocolates from Agios Vasilis on New Year’s Day. 

St. Nicholas tradition--filling the shoes
St. Nicholas tradition–filling the shoes

 Were there any challenges in getting to your destination? What was the flight like?

The flight from the U.S. to Germany is around eight hours depending on your departure. If you travel from the U.S. to Greece it can be closer to eleven hours. The travel is long and strenuous but worth it! When we lived in Germany the flight to Greece was only a two hour flight. We also took the ferry boat from Italy to Greece. This is a fun way to see more of Europe.

Marktplatz Schwabisch Gmund
Marktplatz Schwabisch Gmund

What did you learn about yourself from this trip?

I have learned that each culture has so much to learn from one another. Some cultures are more relaxed and some are more rigid. Each has a lesson to take away. There is so much to see in this world and exploring is one of my favorite things to do.

How did this trip enrich your life? Describe any experiences that made you grow spiritually.

I think moving around and meeting new people has taught me and my family to be more culturally aware and accepting. I embrace all new things and I have never met a stranger.disco

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Modern Spanish Cuisine

Republica is the name of a tapas restaurant on the Kansas City Country Club Plaza. It is referred to as modern Spanish cuisine. (not there anymore as of a year or so.)IMG_7619The idea of tapas is perfect for spending the evening on the plaza because we can nibble, drink and move on to some shopping without getting totally full at a heavy dinner. Inside this sophisticated restaurant ambience, we looked over the menu of tapas and small plates. I liked the idea of getting to sample some of my favorites—oysters, duck confit and grilled bread with a goat cheese spread. First, we ordered our sangria and beer.IMG_7647My sangria had blackberries, orange and apple slices. I had never had grilled bread like this before! A light buttery glaze with a smoky flavor on the country bread was complemented well with the goat cheese-marmalade spread. It was called Pan al Queso. IMG_7631My husband ordered the duck leg confit. Yes, tapas can be man food, too! He was impressed with the taste of it–not too gamey and salty but tender, moist and falling off the bone! The waiter told us that they cook it for 8 hours and then deep fry it quickly to get it crunchy.IMG_7632It was filling and quite large for a tapas. Coupled with a glass of beer, my husband found it satisfying! There was a TV above the bar so he got to see the basketball game going on, too.IMG_7646IMG_7626We saw other plates being served to the customers next to us. Croquettes and small smokies on a skewer looked yummy.IMG_7649We went during happy hour which was 3-6 p.m. Scoping out the layout made me realize this would be a good gathering place with a large group. The banquette we sat at in the bar had stools, too–so that area seated 8. Perfect for several couples or a group going shopping and wanting a break in the middle of the afternoon. I like a place that ranges from casual to elegant and Republica definitely had that ambience.

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Look up the  menu on this link. The descriptions are heavenly!

www.republicakc.comIMG_7640

good to the last bite!
good to the last bite!

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photos by Gina

Mount Athos, Greece

My son visited Mount Athos—the most significant collection of monasteries in Greece. Women are not allowed on Mount Athos. To visit there, you must go through an application process that has to be approved. He and his friend from the U.S. were traveling through Greece together during the summer and Mount Athos was the final destination on their trip. I asked him to keep a journal while he was there. His journal exceeded my expectations! I’m so happy he will have these memories and details recorded for posterity.photo 4 Their adventure started when they had to take several forms of transportation just to arrive to this most holy place!  It was planes, trains, automobiles, and ferries! They had just enjoyed three weeks at a co-ed youth camp in Greece and another 8 days of freedom, adventure and a Greek wedding celebration in the coastal town of Nafpaktos. Now they were ending their 5 week trip at Mount Athos for six days. I urged my son to keep a travel journal about this special experience he was about to embark upon. I had taught him in elementary school how to do this on our family trips. His older brother urged him to keep a journal as well  because he had not done it on his solo trip to Greece and he regretted it. My son took our advice and diligently wrote daily in his journal. I’ll always save that little black journal for him.

Here is the typed version written by my 18 year old son:


Mount Athos : Day One 7-20-2015

I’d by lying if I said I wasn’t terrified. Only one week left, yet July 28th seems so far away. Here I am, laying in my cot at Philotheo, with bats flying overhead throughout the hallways and no air-conditioning system to ease me into a much desired sleep. This is my first impression of the Holy Mountain, a site in which thousands of pilgrims travel to and from all around the world each year.

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Just nine hours in, and yet there’s nothing quite like the experience. A 9:45 a.m. ferry ride turned into a 2.5 hour mind trip. As expected, there was no means of accessing wi-fi aboard the boat, so I had the duration of the trip to keep to my thoughts and ponder how exactly the week would unfold! (Mom had watched a documentary on Mt. Athos years ago and told me the monks pick peaches, make wine and pray all day. She said it was a fascinating documentary but she was concerned about what two 18 year olds would do there.)images-12

Upon arrival in Dafne, it was made abundantly clear that I’d be continuing my self-reflection for an indefinite period of time. No wifi, no English-speakers, and no girls anywhere. We boarded the bus to Kerya, the capital of Athos, and arrived around 45 minutes later. From Kerya, we located the shuttle to Philotheo, one of the many monasteries in which we’ll be staying during our trip. On the way to the monastery, our shuttle hit a rough patch of gravel, which led to an emergency tire change as the air-conditioning system was beginning to give out. Sweaty, tired, and curious, we finally arrived at Philotheo around 2:00ish pm.

After checking in our names and information, we were directed to our room by a young, Greek monk. We were given three hours of free time, which was used for sleeping and reading, and we headed towards the chapel for 5:00 evening vespers. By this time, I was so overwhelmed by homesickness and a change of culture that I began a repetition of Jesus Prayers in my head. By the end of the service, I had probably reached 1500+repetitions. I struggled greatly with the language barrier. I read and write Greek but do not speak it fluently.images-4

After vespers, the group of pilgrims and visitors—around 25– headed into the dining hall. Here, I was served lentils, garbanzo beans,  bread, and you guessed it—peaches! Naturally, I ate three peaches as the group feasted in silence. images-5Here, during meals, it is customary to eat in a quiet manner, for a monk is chanting the epistle all throughout the meal. After dinner, the group was directed back into the church for a second prayer service. Upon dismissal, we were led into the inner sanctum, where, spread out upon a table, lay five different relics: a piece of Christ’s cross, part of the skull of St. Mammas, and various body parts from Sts. John Chrysostom, Marina, and another one I can’t remember.images-11

After venerating these relics, as well as the miraculous icon of the Virgin Mary, we were allowed free time for the remainder of the evening. So, here I am, writing the first of many journal entries during this extended period of time at Mount Athos. It has been a humbling and intimidating experience thus far, but I am interested to see where this trip takes me over the next five days. I’ve never missed home so much in my life, but I know that I’ll most likely never get this experience again, so I just have to make the most of my time upon the mountain.- End of Day OneRV-AC877_ATHOS_G_20110520011319


 Mount Athos: Day Two 7-21-2015

It has been exactly one month since I left Tulsa to embark on my journey in Greece. Although I can’t say that I missed home too much while I was at (Ionian Village) camp, it is now one full week until I’m back in the U.S., and I couldn’t be more anxious to return home. The past two days at Athos have seemed like an eternity. This morning, we woke up at 4:00 a.m for a four-hour church service. Between the snores of monks and my own little naps, I found myself praying more thoroughly than I have ever before in my life. During this time, I prayed for as many individuals I could think of. The prayer helped me reflect on my life and relationships with these individuals, as well as making the service seem shorter than it actually was.images-7

After the service, we headed towards the dining hall for breakfast, where we were served pasta, bread, salad and, once again, peaches. After another silent breakfast came and went, we were allowed to return to our rooms for mid-morning siesta. After napping for four hours, we packed our backpacks, filled up our water bottles, and headed for the monastery, Karakalo. Originally, planned to be a thirty minute hike, we got sidetracked and thrown off course, thanks to a bit of off roading. Upon arrival in Karakalo, we were greeted by a pair of monks who offered us coffee, ouzo, water and Turkish Delight. We lounged in the monastery grounds for 2-3 hours before evening vespers began. Vespers lasted around 1.5 hours, and afterwards, we were fed a meal of rice and zuchini, bread, feta, wine and water.images-3

After the meal, we headed back into the chapel for another small compline service and the opportunity to venerate several more relics. Here, we were allowed to look upon another fragment of the Holy Cross, the right hand of Saint John the Baptist, the skulls of Sts. Christopher and Bartholomew, pieces of the bodies of Sts. Peter and Paul, the right arm of St. Theodoro, and parts of newer, non-Orthodox saints’ bodies, as well as a bone from the martyr Gideon, who was a 17th century monk of Karakalo. After venerating these relics, we exited the monastery and headed back towards Philotheo.images-6

By this time of the day, my clothes had all been soiled by dirt and sweat, but we fortunately made it back to the monastery before the gates closed for the night. So, here I am once again, spilling my thoughts and reflections into this little book from Oklahoma. Not a lot of conversing is done on the mountain; even my conversations with Ian are kept to a brief minimum words. I find myself most at peace with my surrounding when I have a book in my hand. Already, I have finished Game of Thrones, and I am about to begin Crime and Punishment.

As beautiful and interesting as this journey has been, I can definitely see why very few are called to live the monastic life. As a teenager living in the 21st century, so much of my life and everyday routine involves instant gratification on top of an always busy schedule. Here, you pray, sleep and eat peaches; it’s not exactly for the faint-hearted, such as myself. Although I am not quite as homesick as I was yesterday, I still find myself fretting about my return on a regular basis. I am very curious to see where the next three days take me, and I am excited for my return in only one week from the day.–End of Day Twoimages-2


 Mount Athos: Day Three 7-22-2015

Today was my birthday. By far and large, it was definitely the most unique of the 18 birthdays I have celebrated throughout my life. Unlike the previous 17 “celebrations” that I have experienced, there was no such party or festivities to honor the day. Similar to the previous morning, I was woken up to the continued pounding of metal, which, in my opinion, serves as a highly effective alarm clock. An additional hour-and-a-half’s rest led to a 5:30 a.m. Entrance into the Monastery’s chapel for morning services. After a long 2.5 hours came and went, we were ushered inimages-10to the dining hall where we ate a meal of bread, marmalade, more peaches, and water. If hunger truly bares its teeth at you upon Mount Athos, then Wednesdays and Fridays are a challenge unlike no other. I have trained my stomach to allow my body to get by on only a few portions of food per day.

Going to bed hungry and waking up in the same fashion is no longer a foreign feeling to me. After pocketing a peach, I headed back to my room to pack and get ready for the travel to Dafne, where we would be boarding a ferry to St. Anna’s monastery. After an hour’s travel, we arrived in Dafne to the comforting sight of civilization (in this case, more than 20 individuals). With the absence of outside communication greatly affecting my well-being over the previous two days, I began a frantic search for wifi or any means to contact any family from back home. After drawing much ridicule on my first attempts to ask for wifi/telephone usage, I finally met a store owner who allowed me to purchase a phone card that was valid for five minutes.

Although I knew the time difference was too great to expect a response, I nonetheless placed a call for my home. I wanted to leave a message for my parents so they knew I was doing well on my birthday, but the lack of response only prompted me to believe that maybe my call didn’t go through. After five more calls later that day, I was finally able to briefly speak to my grandmother, Yiayia Artemis. It was very comforting to hear a familiar voice, especially on a day where I’ve grown accustomed to a mass influx of notifications wishing me a happy birthday. As mentioned greatly throughout this journal, being in a situation like mine—not knowing much of the language, being cut off from communication, having a complete change in culture—it all makes you realize how comforting home is, wherever that may be.images-1

I can only recall another incident where I truly missed home to the point of near-sickness, and that was five years ago at Camp Hale, which is, in fact, in Oklahoma. Back then, as a small 12 year old, I was lucky enough to have my dad come drive in for the rescue and my mom to talk to over the phone every night. Here, I have nobody, and although I may now be an official “adult”, I wish I had my parents to come fly in for another glorious rescue. Regardless, I still have another two days without communication so I will have to make due with the few conversations I share with Ian.

After placing the initial phone call, I was tasked with the issue of having to find a storage unit for my mammoth of a suitcase. This proved to be a real challenge, considering how limited my Greek is. It’s not like I was ready and willing to just drop my bag off with some stranger at the port, either. Our itinerary called for an hour and a half’s walk from St. Anna’s monastery to St. Paul’s. This hike would take place on Friday, and between today (Wednesday) and then, Ian would be summiting the actual Mt. Athos. One look at that mountain told me that there was no possible way that I’d make it to the peak and back in a 24 hour period, so now I was facing the issue of having to separate from Ian for nearly a day and a half.images-16

Reluctantly, I agreed to the proposition, and fortunately, found a store owner who would hold my bag for me. However, five minutes after leaving my bag, I knew that there was no way that I’d be willing to make that big of a risk.  Ian and I decided on a sudden change in the itinerary, one that wouldn’t require many transportations of my suitcase, and one that didn’t involve Ian making the hike to the peak and back. We boarded a small ferry and made our way towards St. Dionysios monastery, which is built into the side of the mountain. If you google search “Mount Athos”, you will most likely come up with a picture of this particular monastery. It’s a massive structure, split into four quadrants, and at all times of the day, you can hear/feel massive waves of wind flooding the grounds of the monastery.

We made our way up to the gates, found our room, and took a three-hour nap before evening services began. After the service, we were treated to a meal of an unknown bean soup, a watermelon rind, baby pears and bread. A man gave me a slice of watermelon, and I almost reached across the table to hug him. After dinner, we headed back to the room, prepared for bed and stayed up for a couple of hours talking about random topics. Now, as an end to one of the most interesting birthdays I’ve ever experienced, I’m here in my small, creaky bed getting ready for another short night’s sleep; it’s quite the far cry from a typical hometown birthday, but hey, not many people can say they celebrated their birthday by living as a monastic for a day. 🙂 – End of Day Three

 P.S. Compline this evening introduced us to several new relics, including body parts from St. John the Baptist, St. George, St. Nymphon, the Theotokos as well as another piece of the Holy Cross, along with an icon made from beeswax that is said to have floated all the way back to the monastery after being stolen by the Turks. (it’s myrrh streaming too, so that’s pretty unique)


 Mt. Athos: Day Four 7-23-2015

“CLANG! CLANG!” “KNOCK, KNOCK, KNOCK”. My fourth morning on Mount Athos began in a fashion much similar to the previous days spent at Philotheo. The homemade alarm system seems to be a popular fix amongst all of the monasteries here on the mountain. Instead of jumping out of bed and trudging over towards the chapel, however, we decided to take an additional few minutes to nap and get some extra rest in. Well, five minutes turned into seven hours, and by 11:00 am., we were finally well-rested for the first time in nearly a week. After gathering our bags and eating what little snacks we had left over (we missed breakfast), we made our way down the monastery (St. Dionysios) and waited for the ferry for two hours.

A ten minute ferry ride took us to the St. Paul’s monastery, which too is built into the side of the mountain. After a monk’s greetings and a complimentary tray of water, tsiporo ouzo and Turkish Delight, we settled into our room at around 2:00 pm where we napped for four hours until evening services come around. Upon arriving at the chapel, which was far larger than the previous three I had entered during my time on the mountain, I realized how architecturally different each monastery had been. Philotheo was modest and plain, much like its monks, Karakalo was characterized by its tall, white tower. St. Dionysios was a behemoth of a mountainside structure and heavily reminiscent of Lord of the Rings and St. Paul’s was a lavish, built-up structure with massive walls and a grand church.

An hour-long service led to dinner at 7:00 pm which consisted of wine, squash and fish, bread, water and wait for it– MORE PEACHES! After only eating a few bites of the meal (my stomach has shrunk significantly) I exited the dining hall with my hands behind my back. A monk corrected me and told me not to walk with my hands behind my back.images

After venerating the relics, which I wasn’t quite able to make out (regarding names), we headed back towards our room to check in for the night. Today was a short day compared to the previous days spent here, and it was also the first day where I haven’t felt extremely homesick. I think getting closer and closer to returning to Ouranoupoli has wiped away all of my worries about missing home and outside communication, and I’m sure tomorrow—my last day on the mountain- will be the most enjoyable day that I’ll have during this pilgrimage. Until then, I’m hopping in bed, popping in my headphones, and going to sleep. Peace out, reader. – End of Day Four


 Mount Athos: Day Five 7-24-2015

Today was my last full day on Mount Athos. As I stated way back on day one, there’s really nothing that can compare to the experience. Though I started out my journey as a scared, homesick traveler, I’ve grown accustomed to the complete change in culture. A few nibbles on a peach can tide me over for nearly a full day, a four-hour prayer service is a walk in the park, and cold showers are as common as breathing or blinking your eyes. Still, as ordinary as my surroundings may seem, I will never come to embrace the nightly struggle of falling asleep in a furnace. My sleeping schedule is completely out of whack, and with as few hours of sleep I may get per day, I can never ease my way into slumber on the mountain. That being said, I am extremely excited to make the ferry back to Ouranoupoli in a few short hours. Solitude and deep contemplation really allow you to embrace the small things in life, such as talking to your family, eating a full meal, or sleeping in your own bed.

The excitement began this morning after another four-hour morning Orthros and Liturgy, followed by a feast of bread and marmalade. A 45-minute nap session quickly turned into a full blown sprint to the ferry, which we very nearly missed. A ten minute boat ride took us from St. Paul’s monastery to St. Gregory’s, where we currently are right at this moment. After napping for a few hours (this time, in a room with one fellow American from Maine), we headed up a very steep hill for evening services, a dinner of fruits and more unknown soup, and veneration of the relics, which included body parts from St. Gregory, St. Anastasia, St. Damian, the Samaritan Woman’s cranium, St. Dionysios of Athen’s cranium, and another piece of the Holy Cross.patriarch_mount-athos

After this collection of events ended, we met up with our roommate (whose name I don’t quite remember) and headed back towards our quarters. I had the most entertaining conversation over the past week or so with this random stranger. No shock, it was all about professional basketball. So finally, for the last time, I’m recording the final words into this journal, which I hope will inform whoever is reading this about the overall experience that Mount Athos has been for me over the past week. I’ll try to add some closing remarks on the ferry tomorrow, but if I don’t get around to doing so, I hope you enjoyed hearing my tale on the Holy Mountain, and I can’t wait to be back home.– End of Day Five

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Girls Trip to Italy

My friend is a wizard at creative traveling! This lovely and exuberant lady shared her recent trip adventures with me.  I am inspired by her carpe diem attitude to travel with her friend to Italy and enjoy the nuances of Italian life, culture and cuisine. Their cooking class and quest for good coffee makes me miss Italy! Even their transportation challenges and obstacles did not ruin their fun!

What inspired you to travel to Italy?  

I have always wanted to travel to Italy but it became a possibility when I came across an airline fare from NYC to Milan one way for $130. I started building the trip from there.images-7

What did your trip itinerary involve?

My friend and I started in NYC for 2 days, then we flew into Milan for 1 night, Florence for 4 nights, Venice for 1 night and 2 nights in London.

 

2 nights in London
2 nights in London

 

What excursions or museums do you recommend?

In Milan, I would recommend seeing the Duomo, a Gothic cathedral that took over 600 years to build.

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Duomo

Take a lift or walk up the stairs to the rooftop to see breathtaking views of the city. On a clear day, the view stretches to the Alps. Milan is also home to the Teato Alla Scalla, one of the oldest opera houses in Europe. I missed seeing the Leonardo’s Da Vinci’s Last Supper because the tours were sold out while we were there. I would highly recommend reserving that in advance of a trip. In Florence, I would recommend also seeing the Duomo Cathedral and seeing Michelango’s David. It was one of the most magnificent sculptures I have ever seen. No picture will compare to seeing in person.

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David

We also took a tour of the Uffizi Gallery with a guide. I loved how passionate and knowledgable the guide was in describing the paintings and sculptures.

What hotels and restaurants do you recommend?

We stayed in some excellent hotels in all of our cities but our favorite was the Hotel David in Florence. It was a very homey atmosphere convenient to all areas with an evening cocktail area where all the guests congregate downstairs in the evening to visit and talk about their adventures.

How would you describe the perfect Italian meal?

Our perfect meal was in Florence. We had arranged a tour with Walkabout Florence. The guide picked us up and walked us through the indoor food market Mercado Centrale to pick out all of our ingredients. Unknown-11465259_965167053510645_3197978724358523805_n (1)1013643_965167066843977_1048340018220665701_n (1)1013643_965167063510644_854300786199871501_n (1)We then caught a bus to the Tuscan farmhouse kitchen where we had the opportunity to drink wine and cook with our fresh ingredients.10172667_965214010172616_3272048095811427525_n1383255_965168153510535_2998066384338258836_n (1) The kitchen was state of the art with an outdoor pizza oven and had great views of the surrounding Tuscan countryside. It was a day-long adventure with lots of laughter.1234451_965169040177113_7321008556076098592_n (1)

10805728_965169036843780_1193416203902199705_nDescribe the vibe of the culture?

Milan is very industrial and is definitely the bustling center of finance for Italy. It was very crowded. The shopping was very glamorous and high end with shops such as Versace, Louis Vuitton, Armani and Prada. images-5 Florence was much more laid back and more my style. The shopping was more open market style with some excellent deals on jewelry, silks and leather. Bicycles rule the road in Florence. Everyone has one with a bell and a basket.images-6

Describe a custom that you observed there. Did you incorporate any of their customs back home?

One of my favorite things about Italy was finding that perfect cup of coffee. Italy has a wonderful respect and love for coffee. Cappucinos are only for breakfast; no milk in the coffee after 11am. If you order a latte, you will probably get just a glass of milk. Drink it standing at the bar, on the go. Espresso is an after dinner drink. I bought me a Bialetti percolator to enjoy at home!Unknown-2

Were there any challenges in getting to your destination? What was the flight like?

Our biggest challenge was in NYC getting a replacement passport for my friend at the State Department. She had recently remarried and didn’t realize that she needed to have a passport with her new name. It actually delayed our trip to Italy by one day but Delta was nice enough to accommodate us. They even moved that $130 ticket forward one day with no fee. Our only other hiccup was getting off the train at the wrong stop in Bologna, Italy. We thought we were supposed to change trains but we actually had direct tickets from Milan to Florence. images-8The ticket agent was very helpful in getting us back on track, not without some heavy teasing. She had a good laugh at our expense. I loved the trains from city to city. It was so easy to get around -and so comfortable and relaxing. I don’t think I would want to rent a car.

What did you learn about yourself from this trip?

I learned that I am ready to go back and take my husband but I would spend more time in one spot. We were too fast paced. I would spend more time in the Tuscan area, drinking Chianti, eating gelato and pasta and relaxing.10407770_965168626843821_5792720126487024038_n

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Hiking the Adirondacks

My adventurous and athletic friend loves to hike. We were impressed to recently learn that he goes on solo treks that are rigorous. We were fascinated and daunted to learn that he does these hikes alone! He shared his trip details with me.

What inspired you to go on this trek through the Adirondacks?

 I traveled to hike solo (I always hike solo) across the Adirondacks because I wanted to see Niagara Falls and visit my son who lives in Manhattan on my way back. I had heard how beautiful upstate New York was and I had only been to Manhattan so I had to see for myself. images-2

What did your trip itinerary involve?

 I left late on an afternoon and drove to Kansas City, got up early the next day and drove to Buffalo, NY where I had my first Airbnb experience (awesome). The next morning got up early and drove to Northville, NY. I parked my car, then hiked for the next 6.5 days (about 152 miles) and this included a side trip to the High Peaks where I climbed 3 separate mountains, the highest of which was Mt. Marcy (photo below) then on to Lake Placid. IMG_64651From there I hitchhiked back to Northville then drove to Manhattan. I ate and drank till the wee hours of the morning with my son and his girlfriend, got 4 hours sleep, got up early and drove straight back to Tulsa, stopping only for gas.

Do you recommend any particular sightseeing?

Niagara Falls was incredible. I thought it would be cheesy, but loved every minute of it. Would go again in a moment.IMG_35191

Also, when in Lake Placid, I got to go to the Olympic training center and rode an elevator up to the top of the ski jump and was able to watch the future Olympians training by jumping into a pool.Unknown

Describe the typical hiking meal.

Typical meal was beef sticks, candy, chips and cheese and cookies (my standard hiking fare). The hike was beautiful forest and the views from the mountains were unbelievable. It’s hard to believe I was in New York. It was unseasonably hot so I saw nobody on trail for 4 days. Buffalo had a very cool bar/restaurant area lots of beautiful, nice people.images

Describe the terrain.

The terrain was very dense forest and beautiful lakes. Hiking on the mountains was on primarily large rock trails, think of a river stone, then imagine a path only of river stones the size of suitcases to cars.IMG_08741

People I saw on the trails were from Europe, Japan and most of the surrounding states with a few Canadians.

Were there any challenges in reaching your destination?

No challenges traveling there. There were unbelievable orchards and wineries in the Finger Lake region of upstate NY. When you have really great food in NYC it is because the food was just picked a few hours before you had it in the restaurant.

What was your workout regimen to prepare for the trek?

I lifted weights 2-3 times a week and did 7-15 mile hikes at Turkey Mountain each week.

 How did this trip enrich your life?  What did you learn about yourself from this trip?

I remembered like I always do when I do long distance hikes how much I like being alone.IMG_88191

 Did you have any experiences that made you grow spiritually?

I always am surprised how much I enjoy being around people once I have been alone. It is like fasting for 3 days, then having an orange.

It is always the best orange I have ever had.images-1

Bolivia- visiting my roots

My beguiling friend descends from two ethnicities: Bolivian and Czechoslovakian.  I have never met anyone from both of those backgrounds. She is as interesting and exotic as her heritages and they play a major role and influence in her personality and flair. I interviewed her about her trips to her mother’s homeland, Bolivia. She spent 10-12 summer trips there as well as visiting her father’s homeland of what was then called Czechoslovakia.1456141_233623903472489_575348711_n
What inspired you to travel to Bolivia?

We went annually in the summers to visit family.

What did your trip itinerary involve?

We stayed at a resort in the Amazon jungle called Chapare.  I remember it being so lush, green, untouched….HEAVEN.

Amazon jungle
Amazon jungle

It was a family owned resort with a woman who cooked meals for us with ingredients from her backyard. We hitchhiked while there as a family since there were no taxis or buses. It was rural and close to Cochabambra where my mom grew up. It was a little town; extremely rustic with open air markets, dry meats hanging and fresh bread. The taste of the fresh bread is something I’ll never forget. I have never had bread that stands up to par like that.images-10

What areas do you recommend?

The city of Santa Cruz is becoming more metropolitan. We stayed in Chapere which was a diamond in the rough.

Santa Cruz
Santa Cruz

How would you describe the perfect Bolivian meal?

Lots of chicken and rice with flavorful sauces; paprika, onions, peppers, local spices. The potatoes are called chuño which is a variety only found in Bolivia.Unknown-2

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chuño farmers

There are so many varieties of potatoes there. Salteñas is like an empanada with chicken or beef. Sometimes a chicken claw is in the food because it supposedly adds a lot of flavor. My sister and I would ask each other if a claw was found in our food as a sort of game.

salteñas
salteñas

Describe the vibe of the culture.

There was an eclectic mix of Indian and Spanish fusion. The Indian Incan culture was more vibrant and dominant than the Spanish. It was family-oriented, warm and a lot of eating at people’s homes.

Incan
Incan
Incan
Incan

 Describe a custom that you observed there. Did you incorporate any of their customs back home?

A Christmas tradition  there is a dessert, like a begneit, called bunuelos. On Christmas Eve, we made up batter with Pisco which is a S. American liquor which gives an incredible smell to the batter. You pull the dough apart, drop it in a hot oil and put a hole in the middle to creat the “donut hole.” Then, you put powdered sugar on top. Delicious! Our family still makes these every Christmas Eve.bunuelos

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Were there any challenges in getting to your destination? What was the flight like?

Because of my father’s job, we flew there in a military plane. The flights and layovers took 14-16 hours. We sat on the belly of the plane in a fiberglass shell of a seat that had a little scoop and seatbelt. We flew over La Paz which at that time was the highest altitude airport in the world. (I don’t know if it still is.) It is very common to need oxygen when you land due to altitude sickness, so this was always a challenge.Unknown-10

What did you learn about yourself from this trip?

I learned how proud I am of where I come from. I am proud of my heritage and the values instilled in me. They are deeply seated values from being in an extended, multi-generational family.  You bring in family members in their time of need.images-4

How did your trips to Bolivia enrich your life? Did you have any experiences that made you grow spiritually?

It opened my eyes to a broader world view. It makes me appreciate what we have here in America but also, there, too. Experiencing nature and a more rural lifestyle helped us entertain ourselves without television and the usual amenities. It taught us how to have our own fun and enjoy the simple life. images-1Because Catholicism is so dominant there and at the core of everything, those religious values became so instilled in me at a young age. It is prevalent there in everything you do; it is both religion and culture. Today, I am a non-denominational Chrisitian, but I still have a love for my Catholicism. Having a broader world view also helped in getting comfortable with both hosting and sending children on exchange trips. images-8We hosted students from Costa Rica and Spain and our daughter participated in a 2 month exchange to Spain in 5th grade. We have bonded with both the Costa Rican and Spanish families and traveled to visit both as a family. These experiences have enriched our entire family!1472094_233623940139152_1425857735_n

Interviewer’s side note: (We discussed that political problems and safety concerns that are currently going on in the world, etc…and topics of being global citizens and the love of travel). My friend had a wonderful quote that she remembered from somewhere:

“When you hurt another human being, you hurt all humanity”.

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Italian Meatballs in Finland

My lovely, talented and creative sorority sister visited Finland with some of her family members. Her perspective about life in general is very interesting to me because she is resilient and family-oriented as well as innovative in her pursuits. She shared with me her trip experience and how she put her own Italian-American spin on things in Finland.12141683_10206339408218516_1815806267432744010_n

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What inspired you to travel to Finland?

We went to visit a family friend who plays basketball for Lapua, Finland which is in the central Eastern inland portion of Finland. (not the coast). We went to two of his Lapua Cobras  games. Their seasons run from October- May. I went with my 12 year old son, my 23 year old daughter and her 2 year old son.12079279_10206368712751111_8643332797627004643_n12065615_10206366099885791_1388433186221989722_n

 

 

 

 

 

 

What did your trip itinerary involve?

We started in Helsinki and Lapua and then took a day trip to Vaasa. Everything is written in Finnish or Swedish. Some people speak English but a lot of print material was either Finnish or Swedish. Kotka is on the Southwest coast and seaside. 1011675_10206383570482545_7826971193178847460_nVaasa is on the East coast. Our favorite was Kotka because Lapua was a rural and small hometown. Kotak was bigger and urban. Typically, I don’t think a tourist would go to Lapua but we went because of the basketball connection.

12118615_10206383568842504_8383717679675021348_nWhat excursions or museums do you recommend?

Lapua Gardens! The hometown atmosphere was great. 10676172_10206383571002558_1057733916067193132_nThere was no fast food but several pizzarias. 12115783_10206358486535462_3470778336761000385_n 2We went to grocery stores and cooked every night for our friend. Lapua used to be the largest ammunition plant in Finland. It had an explosion that killed 60 people. Now, it’s a museum; not a plant anymore. It’s been moved outside of the city.12140659_10206383572642599_2362249518154748721_n

Describe the perfect Finnish meal.

We cooked our own food but we did discover a dish of fried fish and potatoes that was good.

12068718_10206376973517625_8795806774543450367_oDescribe the vibe of the culture.

The people were very nice, very accommodating. Everyone we met, even the cab driver, was nice. He walked us into a train station and showed us how to buy a ticket.

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Describe a custom that you observed there. Did you incorporate any of their customs back home?

Bikes were everywhere! I loved that! Even the elderly biked. Their walkers had scooters, a footpad, wheels and they could scoot along in them. They were like skateboard walkers. No one is overweight there. Breakfast was slices of salami, ham, cheese, cucumbers and tomatoes. We incorporated their breakfast back home. At the games, they served bratwurst with no buns vs. the traditional American home dog in a bun. The lack of fast food places contributes to their lack of obesity there.

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What did you learn about yourself from this trip?

To not bring so much luggage! We way overpacked! I also learned that I can travel anywhere and be fine. When something goes wrong, I’m always a “go with the flow” person. I booked our hotel rooms the day before on Expedia. I did not rent a car because I didn’t have an international driver’s license. Most cars there are stick-shift anyway and I don’t drive that. We used public transportation anyway.  Their public transportation is fabulous. Finland is kid-oriented. For example, restaurants had a playroom for kids and so did the airports. If you had a stroller, you went to the front of lines in airports or transportation places. VR public trains were awesome and they go all across the country. On the last night, we stayed in Helsinki which is the “New York of Finland”.12088529_10206383572602598_1402183855350537661_n

How did this trip enrich your life? 

It was fun to take my 12 year old son (my baby) because of the one on one time. My daughter had her baby, too.12096544_10206368714191147_1916928617970253655_n

 

 

So it was two moms with their two babies–you got to be the grandmother and the mother. Tell me about your pie making activity there. That intrigues me.

Yes. We made blueberry pies, blueberry/raspberry and apple pies. The family friend we visited, who is a basketball player there, lives in an apartment complex of ball players. He had a Finnish style kitchen with an interesting feature of drying racks built into the cabinets that drained over sinks. It was like a 1940’s kitchen. The inspiration to bake pies came from wanting to make homemade food for him.12144765_10206352404303410_5315871204326627462_n

So the Italian-Americans made Italian meatballs and American pies in Finland!?

Yes, my son and I made my grandmother’s Italian meatballs recipe and my daughter made pies.

Italian meatballs in Finland
Italian meatballs in Finland

photos by Allie Meehan

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A Peruvian Quinceanera in Tulsa

A Quinceanera is a celebration of a milestone. When a young lady becomes 15 years of age (quince) in many Latin communities, she is celebrated with this coming of age party. The event has religious undertones and can include a mass service or a blessing. Reportedly, this tradition dates back more than 600 years to when Aztec and Mayan cultures celebrated the marriage and family eligibility of a young girl. The tradition was eventually influenced by Spaniards and developed a Catholic relationship. The priest or minister guides the girl about her responsibilities as a woman of faith and how she can grow from that. (Look up the symbolism of the bible, rosary, ring, last doll, earrings, shoes, etc.) The tiara that is worn by the guest of honor symbolizes that the daughter is still a princess in her parents’ eyes. With her mom’s permission, I am sharing this celebration for educational purposes and to celebrate the diversity that is alive in Tulsa.

IMG_7243 I compared it to Southern cotillions, debutantes, the American Sweet Sixteen party and other cultures  celebrating the age they consider the child reaching “maturity” or presenting the young person to society. In the Jewish culture, the Bar or Bat Mitzvah is celebrated for 13 year olds. I jokingly told my friends at the event that the Greeks don’t have such an event because they never want to let their children grow up. But of course, I was being facetious. Kind of.

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Being friends with the guest of honor and her parents was the icing on the  quinceanera cake for us! Not only were we lucky enough to be invited–but our son was asked to be a participant in the event! He was one of the salsa and waltz dancers for the honoree’s special event. After several Saturday morning rehearsals in a row, the friends ordered costumes, took professional photos together and practiced other important details to prepare for the big day. My son was honored to be asked to do a bible reading, too.IMG_7241

 The Quinceanera was held at a venue in our downtown and was beautifully decorated. It was heartwarming to watch the guests and friends of the family arrive to celebrate the honoree’s big day.IMG_7317IMG_7239After the blessing, speeches and dinner, the dancers presented us with the meaningful waltz in which the couples alternated and rotated so that each young man could dance with the honoree. He held her, twirled her and with no words–only emotions and gazes– each boy got his turn to celebrate her through dance. IMG_7259

IMG_7301Next was the salsa dance! The girls sat down in chairs while the boys lined up opposite them. The music started and the boys humorously and in their suave way, approached the girls. As they danced their way to the girls, the boys teasingly backed off and danced back to their side of the

dance floor. IMG_7289Eventually, they met in the middle and started their couples dance of salsa. The honoree and her partner had color coordinated outfits that stood apart from the other dance couples who were in gray and silver. Everyone looked glamorous!IMG_7295 IMG_7305All of us parents were proud to watch our children’s skills at these intricate dances. IMG_7288They seemed so grown up, and yet, we could remember when some of them were in Preschool, Kindergarten or Elementary school together. IMG_7290 2My son and his best friend have been friends from the womb since my friend and I went through pregnancy together.IMG_7325My husband found it bittersweet that our youngest son is already old enough to do these grown up dances. It was like a glimpse into future wedding celebrations. It definitely made me feel emotional thinking that time is slipping away from us. I can’t imagine how the guest of honor’s parents must have felt that night to watch their beautiful daughter reach this age of maturity.IMG_7246 The friends’ excitement for her was so touching. The appreciation in the room was so evident and the diversity was impressive. I was excited to realize how these children found such kindred spirits in each other and from such diverse backgrounds. In this dance group alone there were children from the following backgrounds: Swedish/Finnish, Cypriot, Greek, Peruvian,  and Mexican . The friends that attended were from the following backgrounds: New Zealand, (Eastern) Indian, American, etc.IMG_7306

 

The kids weren’t the only ones dancing the night away. The adults danced, too! My husband and I enjoyed watching the Latin people dance. They have a swagger that is so innate and joyful. The youngsters lit up when their modern tunes came on–the deejay knew all the right hits.IMG_7274As grown up as they might be becoming, I noticed my son lingering by the candy table and sneaking some candy before going on the dance floor for his big moves. Priorities. Boys will be boys. Never too old for candy!

sneaking some candy quickly
sneaking some candy quickly
the candy bar
the candy bar

The parents’ speeches to their daughter, as well as the priest’s blessing, were absolutely heartfelt and life affirming. The carefully chosen words of love, guidance and resilience imparted to this child of God were sincerely crafted from unconditional love. The honoree was graceful, poised and reverent on her special day. She seemed groomed for this event.

IMG_7245 I have known her since she was a little girl–beautiful and elegant with bright eyes and a genuine love of friendship. She is a good reflection of her Peruvian and American heritage. I feel so fortunate to be included in this milestone and to be part of the Latin culture at this event. IMG_7240© Gina Michalopulos Kingsley

photos by Gina Michalopulos Kingsley